1. We are stronger than we seem to be
It is not easy to fight with a mental illness. The person we fight for is often not the person we fell in love with and married, during the spell of the illness. It is difficult to see them in that state and yet not break down and give up. We are often at the receiving end of a lot of hurt from them but we brush it off as the illness and fight for them.
2. We are good at hiding our bruises
More often than not we are bruised, psychologically as well as physically. At times it is bad enough to send us into therapy. At times we have to hide it in layers of make up or under shades.
3. We have a lot of patience
We do rant at times but only when we have reached the end of our patience. What you hear is just the tip of the iceberg. Who likes to see their own lives crumble in front of their eyes? Especially when we had just thought that we had seen the worst that could come. Believe me, you wouldn't want to exchange lives us!
4. We do not need your sympathy
Sympathy is the last thing we want from you. Please try to understand the illness and give a sick person his/her due respect. If the person has been behaving strangely with you it is not the person, but the illness.
5. Every day is a fight for us
Every morning we wake up with only one prayer that things go normally. Every moment of our lives are spent fighting with an illness that makes our loved one a different person. Every breath we take is mixed with a fear, a terror of the illness taking control of our significant one. It is not an easy job to fight for your beloved one, especially when the person(in the episode of the disease) is not cooperating with us. We fight all the myths, taboo and stigma to just get our lives in a working order and just when we finally achieve that, life often deals another blow. We do snap as well.
Finally we need love as well..We might not have achieved much in life but we have a round the clock job. Our dear ones often keep us awake the whole night. They often wake us up very early in the morning. Often we hardly sleep for days. Often we are into anti-depressants to cope up with our lives. We do end up looking old and haggard. We hardly have a life outside. We have lost many friends because our partners might have embarrassed us in front of them. We are not invited to any of your parties. Often we do not go to any social gatherings. Often we are too exhausted to even live a life. But we do appreciate love. It means a lot if someone cares to ask how we are.
It is not easy to fight with a mental illness. The person we fight for is often not the person we fell in love with and married, during the spell of the illness. It is difficult to see them in that state and yet not break down and give up. We are often at the receiving end of a lot of hurt from them but we brush it off as the illness and fight for them.
2. We are good at hiding our bruises
More often than not we are bruised, psychologically as well as physically. At times it is bad enough to send us into therapy. At times we have to hide it in layers of make up or under shades.
3. We have a lot of patience
We do rant at times but only when we have reached the end of our patience. What you hear is just the tip of the iceberg. Who likes to see their own lives crumble in front of their eyes? Especially when we had just thought that we had seen the worst that could come. Believe me, you wouldn't want to exchange lives us!
4. We do not need your sympathy
Sympathy is the last thing we want from you. Please try to understand the illness and give a sick person his/her due respect. If the person has been behaving strangely with you it is not the person, but the illness.
5. Every day is a fight for us
Every morning we wake up with only one prayer that things go normally. Every moment of our lives are spent fighting with an illness that makes our loved one a different person. Every breath we take is mixed with a fear, a terror of the illness taking control of our significant one. It is not an easy job to fight for your beloved one, especially when the person(in the episode of the disease) is not cooperating with us. We fight all the myths, taboo and stigma to just get our lives in a working order and just when we finally achieve that, life often deals another blow. We do snap as well.
Finally we need love as well..We might not have achieved much in life but we have a round the clock job. Our dear ones often keep us awake the whole night. They often wake us up very early in the morning. Often we hardly sleep for days. Often we are into anti-depressants to cope up with our lives. We do end up looking old and haggard. We hardly have a life outside. We have lost many friends because our partners might have embarrassed us in front of them. We are not invited to any of your parties. Often we do not go to any social gatherings. Often we are too exhausted to even live a life. But we do appreciate love. It means a lot if someone cares to ask how we are.
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